Forging a Path

I write today with some exciting news. My business is expanding its services to continue helping people find their path, tune into their intuition, explore and grow.  Tapping into our intuition and soul’s purpose is all part of forging our paths. Looking at the patterns in our lives, and exploring the history, spirituality, and psychology of being human are all part of path work.

Increasingly, my friends in the field and I notice that we seem to be in a time of awakening. It seems that societally, we see the exacerbation of black and white themes: partisan politics, strife in race relations, religious and ideological persecution across the globe. . . it’s as if something is always asking us to choose sides. It seems to increase anxiety, anger, and regret. These themes translate into our everyday lives. We feel we must choose our correct career. Choose our correct partner. Choose identities that match what our soul came into this world to do. We wish these decisions could be black or white. We wish we could more clearly see our path through making these choices. What we so often miss, however, is that much of the learning happens in the gray area, between the yes’s and no’s we are increasingly asked to choose. The gray area often helps us discern what our soul is really here to accomplish. If we take the pressure off of making decisions, we can see what  the decisions actually represent about our journey in this world.

Before I met my husband, I was desperately searching for Mr. Right. After a long line of heartbreaks and scenarios that seemed “bad”, I found myself reflecting. I was alone in my house, with my cat, no date or interest on the horizon. I felt that I was the eponymous lonely spinster at the ripe old age of 29. I finally realized something:  In this space between relationships, between good and bad feedback from men, between where I thought I was and needed to be, I saw that I already had everything I would ever need: love, support, a desire for knowledge, and contentment with where I was headed in life. I was proud of my path. Proud of my identity and who I wanted to continue trying to be. When I stepped out of what I thought I “needed”, I saw that I needed nothing. Incidentally, I met the man I would marry within a month.  When I gave up wanting and needing black and white “answers”, I was finally ready to complete part of my soul’s journey in the gift of my husband. I learned that life was so black and white. I learned that answers are in the gray.

Today, hold onto the idea that our soul can experience growth  when we release our need to find answers. Sometimes being in the unknowing is when we awaken and align to our soul’s true purpose.